Now Ahithophel urged Absalom, “Let me choose 12,000 men to start out after David tonight. I will catch up with him while he is weary and discouraged. He and his troops will panic, and everyone will run away. Then I will kill only the king… 2 Samuel 17:1-2
Ahithophel was a royal counselor originally for David, a man of God. David would not had him as his counselor if his advices were not godly. Ahithophel was probably the close friend David mentioned in Psalm 55:12-14,
It is not an enemy who taunts me—
I could bear that. It is not my foes who so arrogantly insult me—
I could have hidden from them.
Instead, it is you—my equal,
my companion and close friend.
What good fellowship we once enjoyed
as we walked together to the house of God.
A close friend wouldn’t turn as a foe in one day. David had him as his close friend and assumed the friendship to be mutual.
David was no righteous person, he was very wrong in the case of Bathsheba the wife of Uriah. God did forgave David as he sincerely repented, but Ahithophel didn’t – as David didn’t took time to restore that hurt relationship; Ahithophel was the grandfather of Bathsheba the wife of Uriah.
Despite in forgiving David God still judged him –
“This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view. You did it secretly, but I will make this happen to you openly in the sight of all Israel.” 2 Samuel 12:11
Interestingly Ahithophel (the unrestored relationship) arranged for the execution of God’s judgement –
Then Absalom turned to Ahithophel and asked him, “What should I do next?”
Ahithophel told him, “Go and sleep with your father’s concubines, for he has left them here to look after the palace. Then all Israel will know that you have insulted your father beyond hope of reconciliation,… 2 Samuel 16:20-21
God by His grace didn’t allowed Ahithophel advice to succeed beyond what He wanted to happen.
We all make terrible mistakes, on realizing of our mistakes there is a definite order for the reconciliation – rule set by our sweet Lord Jesus Christ:
“So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.” Matthew 5:23-24